So, how the heck do you tame your own inner dialogue?įirst, you need to get to know it. Tame the roommate and you will find a freedom and peace that’s absolutely life-changing. It is the reaction we have to the incessant, often negative and contradictory nature of this dialogue that creates conflict, fear and stress. This voice can pull you away from or distract you from almost anything you’re doing.Īccording to Singer, this “inner roommate” is pretty much the cause of every problem you’ve ever had. In his book The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer refers to this incessant chatter as your “inner roommate” and likens this roommate to the most disturbed, annoying and emotionally reactive person you’ve ever met. Learning to identify and become aware of your inner dialogue is the first step to freeing yourself from the influence of this running dialogue. “The day you decide that you are more interested in being aware of your thoughts than you are in the thoughts themselves – that is the day you will find your way out.”

AwarenessĪwareness differentiates worldly-focused people from spiritually-minded people. You are experiencing your life-and your mind simply narrates. But it can also keep you stuck, anxious and fearful.Īmidst all that chatter, you are in there. That constant narration is meant to be comforting and safe. Your mind takes on the role of deciding how everything needs to be for you to be ok, to feel secure. The mind takes in all of this information and manipulates it in ways that fit our personal reality. This stream of chatter is essentially a narration of what we see, hear and experience. The mind engages in a continuous, endless dialogue. The other part is that which you attend to – your inner voice/dialogue, that stream of internal dialogue that never stops. Your inner being is comprised of two parts: The first part is you – your awareness, the center of willful intention.

You, who you ARE at the core of your being, is separate and wholly distinct from the voice of your mind.

You are not your inner dialogue-this concept is the foundation of spiritual enlightenment and freeing yourself from negative energies: you and the voice of your mind, that ongoing inner dialogue, are not one and the same. “ There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind – you are the one who hears it.” -Michael Singer, from The Untethered Soul

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